The festive season can be a wonderful time for families — but for separated parents, it can also bring unique challenges. Deciding where children will spend Christmas often raises sensitive issues, and disputes or uncertainty about contact arrangements can cause stress for everyone involved, especially the children.
Plan Early to Reduce Stress
It’s advisable for both parents to start conversations about Christmas arrangements as early as possible. Early planning helps to provide certainty, reduce tension, and minimise misunderstandings.
When discussing arrangements, consider:
- The child’s usual routines and what feels familiar to them
- Family traditions on both sides
- Opportunities for the child to spend time with extended family
- Practicalities such as travel, accommodation, and school holiday dates
Sharing proposals and listening to each other’s perspectives can go a long way towards reaching an agreement that works for everyone.
Put Agreements in Writing
Once an agreement has been reached, it can be helpful to record the arrangements in writing. This doesn’t need to be a formal legal document — even a clear email or shared calendar entry can help prevent last-minute confusion.
Try to include details such as:
- Dates and times when the child will be with each parent
- Hand-over locations and arrangements
- Any special events (for example, school plays, family gatherings, or trips)
- Contingency plans in case of illness or unexpected changes
Having a written plan gives both parents — and most importantly, the children — a sense of stability and reassurance.
When Agreement Is Difficult
If disagreements arise and parents cannot agree on arrangements, mediation can be a very helpful next step. Family mediators are impartial professionals who help parents explore solutions and reach practical agreements.
Mediation is often quicker, less confrontational, and more cost-effective than going to court. It also helps parents maintain communication and focus on what’s best for their children.
Support and Guidance
If you’re finding it difficult to make Christmas arrangements for your children, you don’t have to face it alone. Geraldine Watson Family Law can provide clear advice about your options, help you prepare for mediation, or guide you through court processes if necessary.
With the right support — and early, constructive communication — it’s possible to make the festive season a positive and memorable time for your children.